Go with the flow- no need to swim against the current and trying to force outcomes. Go with the Flow and allowthat which is meant for you to come.
This pendant comes in two lengths 2  1/4" or 2  3/4" in either sterling or gold(18k gold plated)  and I have several stones to choose from - see additional photos.  The necklace shown here is the shorter version 2 1/4"with a blue topaz the chain length is 17" and I'm happy to add an extender so you can vary the length another 2".  Please send a note in the order to let me know you would like an extender.